From Tammy L Coia - THe memoir choach
I know I have certainly heard it many times before – that life is full of choices and you choose how to live it. But sometimes you need that fresh revelation.
My daily devotion this morning spoke about love being an action and not an emotion, and that you have to choose to love, choose to love God, choose to love your spouse, choose to love your kids, choose to love your friends. And that got me thinking. Life is full of choices. Every day we have to make the decision as to how we want to live our life; what we are going to let change our life. It is the choices we make that determine who we are and who we will become.
From the moment I got up this morning I knew I was going to have to make a conscious effort to make the correct choices. We have had a lovely weekend with my parents visiting. We took the girls to the Australian Reptile Park yesterday, spending the day making great family memories. It was wonderful. But it certainly took it out of me and the girls. I was exhausted and very sore (arrrgghh that damn JHS!). And as most mothers know lack of sleep can make your tolerance levels very low. These are the days when I could easily just sit the girls in front of the T.V. and go back to bed leaving the house in a mess. It certainly sounded like the easiest option in the short term. But would that be the best choice to have a positive impact on my girls? Would that make me feel less stressed out during rush hour at dinner time when things were still untidy and cluttered as I attempted to get dinner? Would it give me the chance to relax later that night? After reading my devotional this morning I just couldn't. I had to choose.
Now on a day like today I certainly need to take it slower otherwise I wouldn't make it through the week. But if I paced myself I could get the house tidy, have quality time with my girls, and relax on the couch with hubby tonight. And that is what I did. I was amazed how by a making a few postivie choices I got to spend some quaility time with the girls and even play the playstation with them (also a chance to sit dwon and chill for a bit LOL!), I got the house tidy and even got a chance to sit and crochet some new hair clips (check out the shop in the few days!) whilst watching the T.V with hubby. I might not have felt the best but we still had a great day.
And really that it what making life's choices is all about. Trying to think ahead and making the choice of what is going to positively impact your life and the life of those around you.
Sometimes life isn't always smooth sailing and thoses choices to you need to make are even more difficult. Those choices might be how you respond to a letter, some news or how you have been treated. Your emotions may tell you one thing, but you have the choice one how you will let it impact you, on how you will act. You have the choice to use all circumstances to make you a stronger and better person, and make the life of those around a positive place. It isn't always going to be easy but you always have a choice on how you will respond and noone can take that away from you.
For those with children, as rewarding and wonderful parenting is, it is hard work, tiring work and often chellenging. Sometimes you just feel like giving up. But is a choice. You choose how you want to parent your children. You choose what type of role model you want to be to your kids. You choose to show them love and affection. You choose to spend quaility time you them. Sometimes we let our emotions get in the way, raise our voice and get frustrated (yep certainly been there). But you do have a choice if you want to do that. It is a daily decision on how you want raise your family. A daily decision on how you want to treat kids.
For those that are impacted by a chronic medical condtion or disability how do you choose to live your life? Do you let the disease take over your life and spend your life worrying about the disease and let it overtake your thoughts and actions? Or do you embrace life and see that this is just a little challenge that may slow you down a bit but never stops you from accomplishing what you set to achieve. I am always amazed by how little miss Rapunzel embraces life. She never lets her sore tired body get her down or stop her from doing things. Her determination and persistance is always inspiring.
Maybe your choice is to try something new; to share God's word with someone and invite them to church; make some new friends; make a healthier lifestyle by doing exercise and eating better; spend more quaility time with them family, spending more time with God and in his word. The list is endlist but one thing is for certain only you can make those choices.
So take the time to stop and think about the life you want to live, the life you want for our family, who you want to become, who you want your children to become. Write down your vision so it is clear about the person you want to become, the life you want for your family, the impact you want to have on the world around you. And then make each take each step one choice at a time.